| As an Asian girl growing up in the United States, I | | | | around Bangkok and other cultural areas can most |
| believe I was taught by the society to be attracted | | | | recognizably notice. |
| to just about everyone besides other Asian men. | | | | The second most common answer from the Asian |
| This marginalization of Asian men has occurred, in my | | | | girls was Indian men (South Asians). When I asked |
| view, for several reasons. | | | | the Asian girls why the preferred these two ethnic |
| First, the media never portrays Asian men in a | | | | groups of men, their responses centered around two |
| dominant role. They are always portrayed as nerdy, | | | | areas: economic status and physical attractiveness. |
| geeky, brainiacs, with no sense of themselves and no | | | | In terms of economic status, the Asian girls said that |
| ability to attract women. | | | | both white men and Indian men in our society, were |
| In other words, the media portrays Asian men as | | | | viewed as successfull, intelligent, and confident. These |
| incapable and undesirable. Second, American society | | | | are all qualities that the Asian community values. |
| has many negative stereotypes towards Asian men. | | | | Next, the Asian girls said that they found these two |
| It has become a complete joke to think that an | | | | groups of men to physically attractive. When I asked |
| Asian man could ever "satisfy" a woman. Their | | | | why, the responses I recieved were varied. |
| "manlihood" is the constant subject of jokes and | | | | My conjecture in this case would be that both groups |
| insults. For this reason, most women view Asian men | | | | tend to share the same sharp features |
| as asexual and feminine. | | | | (Greco-Roman noses/eyes) that the media tends to |
| For these reasons, Asian girl, and women in general in | | | | value. |
| American society are taught to view Asian men as | | | | So what is the end result of all this? Asian girls are |
| undesirable and feeble. | | | | "up for grabs" and this has essentially devasted Asian |
| As you will see, this is the reason why Asian girls are | | | | men. Asian men are getting the axe on two levels |
| now up for grabs... Asian girls in our society, because | | | | here. |
| of their conditioning, on the whole do not prefer to | | | | First, they are only seen as being able to date their |
| date Asian men. | | | | own kind (other Asian girls). At the same time, their |
| In one of the discussion classes I taught last year at | | | | own kind, at an increasing rate, tends not to prefer |
| Bangkok University, half of the Asian girls in the | | | | them sexually. |
| room, stated that they do not prefer to date Asian | | | | In conclusion, I have come to no conclusion. This is |
| men. Also, roughly every other girl in the class also | | | | merely an observation of mine as a student and |
| agreed that they prefer not to date Asian men. | | | | teacher here at Berkeley. |
| So, if Asian girls are on a trend of not dating Asian | | | | However, I personally view this information as |
| men, who are they dating? Asian Girls the class I | | | | interesting and helpful. And, I, as an Asian-American |
| taught generally gave me two answers to this | | | | woman, bring it in to my consideration when viewing |
| question. | | | | Asian men. |
| The most obvious one being White men, as people | | | | |