| As an Asian girl growing up in the United | | | | people around Bangkok and other cultural |
| States, I believe I was taught by the society | | | | areas can most recognizably notice. |
| to be attracted to just about everyone | | | | |
| besides other Asian men. This marginalization | | | | The second most common answer from the Asian |
| of Asian men has occurred, in my view, for | | | | girls was Indian men (South Asians). When I |
| several reasons. | | | | asked the Asian girls why the preferred these |
| | | | two ethnic groups of men, their responses |
| First, the media never portrays Asian men in | | | | centered around two areas: economic status |
| a dominant role. They are always portrayed as | | | | and physical attractiveness. |
| nerdy, geeky, brainiacs, with no sense of | | | | |
| themselves and no ability to attract women. | | | | In terms of economic status, the Asian girls |
| | | | said that both white men and Indian men in |
| In other words, the media portrays Asian men | | | | our society, were viewed as successfull, |
| as incapable and undesirable. Second, | | | | intelligent, and confident. These are all |
| American society has many negative | | | | qualities that the Asian community values. |
| stereotypes towards Asian men. | | | | |
| | | | Next, the Asian girls said that they found |
| It has become a complete joke to think that | | | | these two groups of men to physically |
| an Asian man could ever "satisfy" a woman. | | | | attractive. When I asked why, the responses I |
| Their "manlihood" is the constant subject of | | | | recieved were varied. |
| jokes and insults. For this reason, most | | | | |
| women view Asian men as asexual and feminine. | | | | My conjecture in this case would be that both |
| | | | groups tend to share the same sharp features |
| For these reasons, Asian girl, and women in | | | | (Greco-Roman noses/eyes) that the media tends |
| general in American society are taught to | | | | to value. |
| view Asian men as undesirable and feeble. | | | | |
| | | | So what is the end result of all this? Asian |
| As you will see, this is the reason why Asian | | | | girls are "up for grabs" and this has |
| girls are now up for grabs... Asian girls in | | | | essentially devasted Asian men. Asian men are |
| our society, because of their conditioning, | | | | getting the axe on two levels here. |
| on the whole do not prefer to date Asian men. | | | | |
| | | | First, they are only seen as being able to |
| In one of the discussion classes I taught | | | | date their own kind (other Asian girls). At |
| last year at Bangkok University, half of the | | | | the same time, their own kind, at an |
| Asian girls in the room, stated that they do | | | | increasing rate, tends not to prefer them |
| not prefer to date Asian men. Also, roughly | | | | sexually. |
| every other girl in the class also agreed | | | | |
| that they prefer not to date Asian men. | | | | In conclusion, I have come to no conclusion. |
| | | | This is merely an observation of mine as a |
| So, if Asian girls are on a trend of not | | | | student and teacher here at Berkeley. |
| dating Asian men, who are they dating? Asian | | | | |
| Girls the class I taught generally gave me | | | | However, I personally view this information |
| two answers to this question. | | | | as interesting and helpful. And, I, as an |
| | | | Asian-American woman, bring it in to my |
| The most obvious one being White men, as | | | | consideration when viewing Asian men. |