The New Character of Grief

When Lorelle and I first wrote this grief devotional,rest of the road around Eden barred with the usual
Mourning Glory, the world of grief, as well as thesigns,- "no entrance," "forbidden," "all mankind stay
world at large, seemed much smaller. We had notout forever or until further notice."
been through 9/11, the war in Iraq or Afghanistan theSo for 40 books of the Old Testament and 28 of
tsunami in Asia or Hurricane Katrina. Mourning wasthe new we get life as we know it, in all its messy,
that small, black blob within us, the ashes in thenasty, sullied, blood-stained agonizing truth; that life is
fireplace, the personal despair, the internaldifficult and sometimes nigh to impossible; that Adam
hopelessness about our own lives. Indeed grief isand Eve's ejection from the Garden was not the
always that, but now it has metamorphosed,spiritual death of mankind, it was the beginning of a
mutated like bird flu to a dense, viscous,struggle so real it pales most so called realistic novels.
bloody-colored, smelly fog which overhangs the worldA cursory review of the plot reveals blood and guts,
with its impermeability to light and love. I am temptedsex and violence, death anddevastation stories to
to say that it has become a grief without comfort, arival any of a Clive Cussler page turner. We have
dark with only shapes and shadows, Plato's phantomsmurder, Cain and Abel; Flood, Noah and the Ark; cities
and shadows on the wall, and sometimes an iniquitouswiped out, Sodom and Gomorrah; the killing of
night of both unrelieved terror and mourning.children and entire civil populations, Jericho; exile to
For the family of a dead soldier; or an Afghan or Iraqithe Wilderness and Babylon; Herod's killing of two
or their children slain by the forces of evil; for theyear olds when Jesus was that age; the oppressive
people who have lost their homes, all their moneyoccupation of Israel by the Romans; and the
and possessions in Katrina or Rita, the idea of aexcruciating death of our Lord and Savior, Jesus.
good, righteous and loving God must be nearlySo we are back to the question, "Why, Lord, why?"
impossible to comprehend much less to embrace.Can we actually become closer to God after our
There is sorrow, so deep that many, as I do, musteviction from Eden? Can we be molded into people
ask,who not only survive but spiritually surmount,
"Why, Lord, why?"conquer and prevail whatever our earthly
I don't know the answer to this. I have heard thatcircumstances? So many Biblical examples exist. Out
we are in the last days, and I can buy that; I haveof the dread wilderness journey a stuttering
heard that God's judgment and righteousness ismurderer and a wayward nation transformed into
abroad in all the lands, and I can buy that; I haveMoses, the leader and prophet, and a nation who
heard that mankind's spiritually diseased conditiontaught us the meaning and depth of worship; from a
must beaddressed, and I can buy that; I have heardyoung upstart in the wilderness and a jaded harlotof
that God will not abridge man's free will, whetherJericho came Joshua, a seasoned general and man of
suicidal or homicidal binge by individuals or nations, andGod and Rahab, the alien whore transformed into a
I can buy that; I have heard that Satan is ragingwoman of God; out of the exile to Babylon came
because his time is short, and that our Lord Jesus'Daniel, the prophet, and Nehemiah, the leader
time is at hand, and I can certainly buy that. I canreturned from exile, who rebuilt the city of Jerusalem
accept at least part of all these construals.and restored the worship of God; last and foremost
What I cannot accept and never will is that deathour God, our Logos, Jesus, without whose atoning
and destruction, a culture of hate, lovelessness andand excruciating death we, all of humanity, would
lawlessness are not only the Godly outcome but thehave no hope at all of reconciliation with
ultimate spiritual purpose of our triune God. It flies inGod, the Father.
the face, like a bat out of hell, of every aspect, ofI am not saying let us welcome death and
every attribute, of every fiber of the being anddestruction whether by man or natural disaster. I am
character of my God, my Lord and Savior, Jesusnot saying that we should not mourn. But the very
Christ.hostile truth is that life is demanding and often
We know that an all-powerful, God, a God who isunsparing, at best, and frequently unbearable at
the alpha and omega of the universe, who is theworst. God may not test us beyond our limits, but
creator and creator of the destroyer did one of twowe are certainly sometimes at the edge of the
things. He either orchestrated every disaster from 9abyss hanging on by our fingernails. So what is the
11 to Katrina, or he permitted the calamitous,comfort for our mourning here in the Zion of our
catastrophic event to occur. Those are the only twohearts? For an answer I came across, not a joyful
choices as I see it. Or is there a third option?passage, but a meaningful one for the circumstances.
Is there a way of seeing the world's disasters whichIt is contended that Solomon, in his debauched and
indeed begins to comprehend a God who is love andextreme eld, penned the pessimism of Ecclesiastes.
who wants to share his kingdom, heavenly andPerhaps that's why he could say something about
earthly, with his beloved, all of mankind? If I look tomourning that resonates with me as a closing
God's Holy Word, the Bible, and to the Garden ofcommentary, and I hope with you.
Eden, I see an idyllic existence where man walkedIt is better to go to a house of mourning than to go
and talked in complete and joyous intimacy with God,to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of
where our destiny with our king was sealed in anevery man; the living should take this to heart.
ideal of spiritual excellence, perfection and beautySorrow is better than laughter, because a sad face is
with never a pin prick of pain to trouble our utopia.good for the heart. The heart of the wise is in the
Ok, how long did this idyllic romp last? Well maybehouse of mourning, but the heart of fools is in the
two, three weeks tops, and then there's the rest ofhouse of pleasure. It is better to heed a wise man's
therebuke than to listen to the song of fools. Like the
Bible. When Adam and Eve were ousted from Eden,crackling of thorns under the pot, so is the laughter
that was the end, the living end, the dead end, theof fools. This too is meaningless.