| A lot of folks find it nerve-racking to go on a first | | | | benefit from the date for what it is, and keep telling |
| date. You sense yourself to be under pressure to | | | | yourself that's what you're there to do. This manner |
| impress, you feel that you are under inspection and | | | | of thinking can take lots of burden off you, and |
| your imperfections will be out in the open, you feel | | | | make you look more unperturbed, which in turn will |
| that some accidental remark you make could be | | | | make you more alluring. |
| sufficient to wreck the whole evening. The | | | | Tell the truth. There's no advantage in trying to act |
| consequence of all these things can be significantly | | | | as if you are someone you're not or that you can do |
| reduced by lifting your confidence. If you issue | | | | things you can't in fact do. For one thing it's tough |
| self-confidence, this will be more appealing to your | | | | work remembering what you've said when you |
| date and you'll benefit from the evening more. So | | | | invented things. Also, if you go out on one more |
| how can you render yourself more confident? | | | | date with that person, ultimately they're going to find |
| Having confidence is simply a condition of mind, and | | | | out that you didn't speak the truth. This can be |
| it's more a question of what "stories" you're telling | | | | uncomfortable at the very least and might lead to |
| yourself than it is about any fine qualities or talents | | | | the loss of a promisingly lovely relationship. So just be |
| you might have. By this I mean that you could, for | | | | yourself. |
| example, persist in telling yourself you are one of | | | | Naturally, you want to play to your strong suit and |
| those people that are constantly the focal point of | | | | play down any limitations you might have. That's only |
| attention. You know the kind - the one that | | | | normal. But don't do that at the cost of telling the |
| everyone is looking at and that everyone wishes to | | | | truth. There is a distinction. Your date will just about |
| talk to. If you tell yourself you are that sort of | | | | undoubtedly be trying to emphasize their own good |
| person then you are more liable to become that sort | | | | points as well, that's just one of the conventions of |
| of person. So imagine yourself as a self-assured | | | | the dating game. |
| person, work on holding that mental image of | | | | When you go out on a first date, if you tell yourself |
| yourself continually. | | | | that you are a exceptional person, and an attractive |
| Keep in mind that it's only a date after all. It's not a | | | | person, and you talk yourself into confidence in |
| issue of life or death. It won't determine the entire | | | | yourself, then there’s more likelihood than not |
| remainder of your life, unless you finish up marrying | | | | that your date will have confidence in you as well. |
| the person you're going on the date with! So just | | | | |